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How speaking another language translates into higher relational intelligence

All are luxuries that come along with having a high RQ (Relational Intelligence), and if you speak another language, then you’re in luck.

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Become a better leader, gain a competitive advantage, win and influence people. What do they have in common? All are luxuries that come along with having a high RQ (Relational Intelligence), and if you speak another language, then you’re in luck.

Through a combination of rigorous mental and social conditioning, one of the factors that favours the development of good communication skills, is the process of learning a  language. Specifically, how the process of switching from one language to another one during our childhood positively impacts our social awareness.

There are social aspects to language – that is an undeniable fact. That is why understanding another person’s perspective requires the constant application and sharpening of our cognitive and social skills even in adulthood.

One of the most pressing concerns in daily communication is to understand others and to be understood

But did you know that, by the simple fact that you can speak more than one language, you are more predisposed to have higher cognitive awareness of another person’s point of view? 

In recent years, the concept of social perception in social psychology has enlarged its scope to confirm some conjectures about multilingualism that were yet to be proved empirically. 

That’s because common assumptions often dictated that multilingualism is advantageous to healthy emotional intelligence.

Although there maybe some truth to that, but it’s much more nuanced than that.  It’s not the impact of being bilingual per se, but rather the whole social package of growing up in a multilingual environment.

An Experiment that showed very surprising results on bilingual children

When researchers did an experiment on bilingual children they concluded that, since language affects social life, therefore bilingualism gives these children a bigger scope and opportunity to know who understands which vocabulary, who speaks which language, and who can converse with whom 

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Samantha Fan, one of the researchers who carried out this experiment, in fact noted that, “Language is social and being exposed to multiple languages gives you a very different social experience, which could help children develop more effective communication skills.”

How they conducted the experiment 

72 children with a mean age of 5.2 years took part in the study. These children were further subdivided into the following categories: 

  1. Monolinguals – Can only speak and hear English.
  2. Bilingual-Can speak and understand two languages.
  3. Children who primarily speak English but have regular exposure to speakers of another tongue.

Each child was required to play a game that required moving objects in a grid. The child was able to see all of the objects, but the interviewer on the other side of the grid could not see them. 

Secondly, to ensure that children understood that the interviewer could not see the whole grid, the children had to initially play the game from the interviewer’s side. Also, once the main experiment began, the instructors had their eyes blindfolded to ensure that, she could not lead or influence the children’s response by her eyes.

To begin, based on three differently sized toy cars – small, medium and large. She would ask the child to move a toy in the grid and try to correctly interpret the adult’s intended meaning. 

The child essentially had to understand that, her instructor could not see the small sized car and so, if the instructor asked the child to move the smallest car, they had to move the medium sized car.

What they found out was that, monolingual children moved the correct object only about 50 percent of the time. This is in stark contrast to bilingual children who understood the instructor’s perspective better by having a 77 percent success rate – An almost 30% variation.

Generally, multilingualism increases one’s capacity to better understand others

This should not come as a surprise since identity is very closely related to group membership, and human beings tend to act in accordance with certain group expectations which they are part of. 

What this means is that within any given social setting, we are predisposed to adjust linguistic behaviour accordingly to fit in because language is a key to social group membership. 

In a world that is becoming more interconnected, there is a huge likelihood that you will live, work or travel in highly multicultural environments. Indeed, it might be the case you will end up falling in love with someone from a different cultural background.

What we recommend is that you should take advantage of such life-changing moments to feel and experience things differently, because each culture expresses various human experiences in a unique way. 

These are excellent opportunities for you to exercise and increase the brain’s cognitive ability by learning a new language. Besides that, you are potentially increasing the size of your social circle since you are more likely to have an easier access to a wider range of social groups.

Learning a new language gives you a bigger opportunity to take part in other peoples cultural experiences, which reduces the risk of being close-minded. It makes you inclined to understand different cultural sensitivities thus enhancing relational abilities.


Written by Briana Anabtawi, Head of Service & Operations, LEXIGO: As Head of Service and Operations, Briana is responsible for quality, client satisfaction and efficiency in service delivery for LEXIGO Strategic Clients and Partners. Briana's professional background in the travel and tourism industry has provided her with a unique insight into culture, language and project management.